I just want to be looked after, if I wanted to take care of someone I would procreate. Is it bad that I want that? Is it in our female DNA to want to be cherished and protected? - No matter, how independent or strong I think I am, I still want that.
I really don't want someone who I have to guide all the time. I can provide counsel, but I don't want to be mommy. I may try to be the alpha, but if there is some else worth of that title they can claim it for themselves and I will surrender the title, gladly. I always just step into the role of a leader, I wish someone would lead just once.
Is it scripted in our DNA? We want to be something and need something else...
I'm a disgrace, goodnight.
You can have pretty much any kind of life you want. I've seen it -- people deciding to be in charge, or cede control, or going for some kind of balance with a partner.
ReplyDeleteBut I know if I expect someone else to take care of my happiness, or my security, if I make them responsible to sort life out for me, or shield me from life -- it certainly breeds hatred and resentments in both me and them. One person ends up feeling trapped, the other feels overwhelmed with unreasonable demands. Or both end up trapped.
I'd go for relationships with others where you lead in areas where you are strong, and the other person leads in areas where they are strong or more competent. Nobody is competent in all things.
I believe we need to be in relationships that are cooperative, and invigorating, empowering and expanding -- not ones where one is limited to a few prescribed roles based off he kind of plumbing you have in your body.
You're not a disgrace and neither is the questioning of this. Keep asking questions. Keep thinking, keep waking up, and keep at it. The more aware we are, the more we can learn, gain confidence, and make the right choices.
I don't believe were are flesh robots that are merely programmed by DNA. I believe we have a wild card -- and that is called being true to your soul.
Or: I know people who control, by telling another person they are in control / responsible for the first person.
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