Absolutely, understand why exes don't communicate any longer. He messaged me and we went back and forth, some how the topic came back to us. Then I may have asked, "You're not in love with me, are you?" He said, "Yes, sorry."
Oh and it only got worse from there, he is being evicted from his apartment two weeks earlier than scheduled. His fault because he know he had to move in June, but he didn't even start looking for a place. Anyways, he is being kicked out in week's time.
Real kicker - someone stole his credit card info and emptied his bank account.
I think I've made him hate me this week. Mission accomplished?
He confessed he did not love you when you asked? You can be years in a relationship, with someone who you think you know from the top to the bottom, and not get that kind of honesty. Do you want him to love you? I've been in love with someone and I wanted them to love me back. They did love a little bit, then they didn't, now they won't. Or they do now and I don't know it. Or when you ask for love the person can't give it, because you asked for it. Or if they really did love you, they'd love you no matter what. I guess the question is, do you want him to love you, or do you love him? Love is a strange thing. Lots of situations, not many answers. I'm sorry to hear he got ripped off and is being evicted. : - (
ReplyDeleteOh -- I see -- I re-read. He says he loves you. The only way I love someone is through actions. If I love someone, I do things for them, and show them how I feel, I positively pester them with my self, and direct action to help them any ways I can. Is he helping you? Or are you helping him?
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure, we barely spend time together. I help everyone, it's like reflex to me. I've tried to help change certain situations, but he seems too lazy or set in his ways to follow them.
DeleteI can't be around lazy people. It is a weakness in my character -- because if I am around someone unmotivated/ lazy, I end up trying to help them and I get taken advantage of. I do their work, and expect that they might appreciate me. They don't. Good news is, I don't do this as much as I used to, I don't blame another for this characteristic of mine, and I'm a lot nicer to be around because of it.
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